You’re such a Fag

Recently, I had the chance to go out with a few friends for drinks. In the process of joking around, one of my friends called me “such a fag.” It wasn’t meant as an attack or to be hurtful, nor did I interpret it that way.  However, upon reflecting on the conversation I wonder if I should have been offended by this comment.  I came across this video on Upworthy from Ash Beckham and I want to share it with you.

The message challenged me and I wonder how that comment may have made other people sitting on the patio near us feel. Would I have been offended if one of them called me a “fag?”  I think that it is an important reminder for us that the words we use are very powerful tools.  That we can “legislate acceptance, but we can’t legislate tolerance” and that we should never use the word “gay” in a way that means “less than.”

This message is even more important now as we see the hate being spread by the officials in Russia in the upcoming games as well as governments and people around the world.  Let me know your thoughts in the comments below.

Are pictures more valuable than words?


There are so many moments that I experience everyday that I wish I could share with friends. As I am laying in bed thinking about what to share with you today, I had the realization that I am really bad at taking pictures to share.

My life certainly isn’t boring, but if you flipped through my iPhone you would certainly be convinced otherwise. It has become a random mash up of one or two pictures of one event that don’t make a coherent story.

I love looking at old photographs and seeing a glimpse of the way things were done in the generations before us. I think that documenting our life in a similar way would be fun.

So to my friends in advance, I’m sorry if I become that annoying picture guy. If that happens, let me know cause this is a learning curve for me too!

I’m excited for this new adventure and can’t wait to share it with you! SMILE FOR THE CAMERA!