You’re such a Fag

Recently, I had the chance to go out with a few friends for drinks. In the process of joking around, one of my friends called me “such a fag.” It wasn’t meant as an attack or to be hurtful, nor did I interpret it that way.  However, upon reflecting on the conversation I wonder if I should have been offended by this comment.  I came across this video on Upworthy from Ash Beckham and I want to share it with you.

The message challenged me and I wonder how that comment may have made other people sitting on the patio near us feel. Would I have been offended if one of them called me a “fag?”  I think that it is an important reminder for us that the words we use are very powerful tools.  That we can “legislate acceptance, but we can’t legislate tolerance” and that we should never use the word “gay” in a way that means “less than.”

This message is even more important now as we see the hate being spread by the officials in Russia in the upcoming games as well as governments and people around the world.  Let me know your thoughts in the comments below.

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Movie Night: The Heat (2013)

Now that the weekend is here, it is time to check out another great movie.  My weekend movie suggestion is The Heat staring Sandra Bullock and Melissa McCarthy.  Last night, I had the pleasure of sharing this awesome movie with my buddy Sheldon.  I can only speak for myself, but I don’t think  we have laughed so hard at a film in a long time.

Bullock plays the character of an uptight FBI agent tasked with a case to take down a drug lord in Boston to prove to her boss that she is ready for a promotion.  Upon her arrival, she finds herself forced to work with a foul-mouthed, local police officer played by McCarthy.  These two phonetical female comedians will have you rolling between the seats laughing.

This film was directed by Paul Feig, who also directed the 2011 comedy Bridesmaids.  This movie features great laughs, big explosions, an awesome cast, and a great storyline to go with it.  Be advised that there is a lot of foul language, but I felt it was tastefully used in character and along with the story line.  That being said, this movie is certainly not one that I would bring the kids to.

I’d give this movie 10 thumbs up if I had that many, but I am limited to only 2.  Trust me though, this gets two REALLY big thumbs up.  Check out the trailer below and let me know your thoughts on the movie in the comments.  Have an awesome weekend!

EAGLE Urban Resource Guide

My father emailed me a link to a news story from CTV News Winnipeg that I want to share with you today.

Watch the Video Here

I want to begin by celebrating the initiative behind the Resource Guide.  Moving into a new city, especially one as large as Winnipeg can be a terrifying experience.  The challenge of learning how to adapt to a new culture can be very tasking.  The intention behind this guide will certainly help with the transition process.

However, my concern with this news story is the language that was used.  The example used by CTV News in this story is about “When you are involved in a crime…”  This statement would be much different if you replace the word “when” with the word “if.”  Winnipeg has a reputation of being a hard city with high crime rates.  Statements like this do nothing to help that image, especially in the minds of a new resident to the city.

I would like to point out that the EAGLE Urban Transition Centre is working with Winnipeg Police to change the image prior to the guide books distribution.

It is essential that we learn from mistakes made by others to prevent repeating them ourselves.  We should take a moment to reflect on the language we use in order to convey a message.  Using correct words will help reduce the chances of misunderstanding in our daily lives.

I’m so BORED!

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I catch myself telling friends that I am bored more often than I care to admit. I have a large list of things that I would love to accomplish or tackle, but finding motivation to accomplish them is often more of a challenge than it should be.

If you Google the word “Bored”, you will find the following definition:

  • Feeling weary because one is unoccupied or lacks interest in one’s current activity

It is not very often that I find myself unoccupied, so that clearly isn’t a problem for me. I find more often that I am lacking interest in the activity that I am doing.

My biggest concern with using the statement “I’m so bored” is that it makes me look ungrateful for the many blessings in my life. I can think of many more tasks that would be much less desirable than whatever “boring” task I am doing, whatever the reason for needing to accomplish the given task is be it for work, or as a step in accomplishing a larger goal for example.

The second challenge with using this statement is that I am often using it when I really mean that I am unmotivated to accomplish another task. Admitting boredom is often easier than admitting that I have the undesirable quality of laziness or a lack of motivation to accomplish a task. Ultimately, I am using it as a mask to cover up my weakness.

Do you have a word that you use as a mask do cover up something else that you actually mean because it sounds better, but actually doesn’t match the definition of the word that you are using?