I have been doing a lot of soul searching lately trying to solve this puzzle called my life. All in all, I really have had phenomenal experiences and know that there are many more great experiences to come.
The most important thing I strive to do in my life is learn from my past. One of the biggest mistakes I have made in my past is making decisions too quickly and not fully contemplating the pros and cons of the choices laid out in front of me. This often results in unexpected consequences and frequently regret.
Over the past several weeks, I have been evaluating several options and successfully eliminated one of these options from my list. However, I am still struggling with three other choices. The hardest part is that all three have very different costs and benefits associated with them.
As I use my past experiences to help evaluate this decision I am finding myself petrified to make a final choice as I fear the regret that comes with making the wrong choice. It also is challenging because whatever I decide to pursue also affects other people than just myself.
I know I keep coming back here as I reflect on my journey. I have been struggling to sleep as my opportunity to make this decision is rapidly expiring. I would like this next chapter to be amazing, but I can’t find the piece I need to finish this chapter.
A few comments… if I may… watch Brene Brown on Vulnerability (Shame, regret). If you google it it will come up in YouTube. Truthfully, regret is a useless emotion which does not serve you; regret is something we feel when we want to give ourselves permission to make what we did seem “right”. Sometimes we make the right decision… sometimes we make the decision right. Whatever you do… My Article on guilt (which you can replace the word for regret and have the same effect) http://changemylifecoaching.ca/articles/guilt-that-old-icky-feeling/ might be helpful for you if you want more information. Remember, regret is just a symptom of something we already believe to be true.
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