A few days ago I shared with you my struggle about not being able to identify my goals. However, in the process of setting my new goals I have realized that part of my struggles have been caused by my actions conflicting with my values.
As much as I hate to use Wikipedia as a reference, I find their definition of “values” is my favourite:
- broad preferences concerning appropriate courses of action or outcomes.
- reflect a person’s sense of right and wrong or what “ought” to be
- tend to influence attitudes and behaviours
In the process of identifying my goals, I have also decided to share some of my values with you. I found a really neat website to help you create your list of personal values here at www.stevepavlina.com.
Some websites suggest that you choose 10 things from the list, but I don’t agree with this method because everyone is unique. Some of you will have more than 10 items on your list, some will have less.
I’ve decided to share some of my values with you below:
- Accomplishment
- Acknowledgment
- Amusement
- Comfort
- Connection
- Control
- Dependability
- Friendship
- Honesty
- Knowledge
- Nonconformity
- Reputation
- Sexuality
- Thoughtfulness
- Traditionalism
- Trust
- Wisdom
I think that it is an amazing experience to be able to identify the things that you value in your soul. It makes choices and decisions more clear since you won’t make a decision or set a goal that conflicts with your values. For me, for example, I wouldn’t make a choice to not celebrate Christmas because it would conflict with my value for traditionalism. That is a bad example because Christmas is one of my favourite holidays.
I hope you take a moment to create your own list and let me know about the experience in the comments below!
