Yesterday, Air Canada received the news that they are going to now have to provide a larger form of compensation to passengers that are bumped off oversold flights. I could probably go on a massive rant about my thoughts on this issue, but I decided to take a different approach.
A friend of mine shared an email with me making fun of the high cost of air travel which I have decided that I am going to share with all of you today.
Hope everyone has an amazing Wednesday and enjoys some laughs.
I am very excited to celebrate my 27th anniversary this Saturday. However, I want to share a moment with you as I reflect on the things that have happened to me over the past year.
This has been a major year of change and growth for me, and though it hurt at the time, I am so incredibly appreciative of everything that has happened. I have used these life lessons to become a much better and stronger person.
In August, I moved away from my home, my family and my friends. With my job, I am able to return to visit Winnipeg often. However, with each passing day, Calgary feels more like home as I create new friendships in this wonderful new city.
I also have had the opportunity to return to the aviation industry as a flight dispatcher. I have had the chance to follow many different career paths during my short existence, but the fast pace and different challenges presented by my current position will provide me with a multitude of opportunities to learn more about this industry. I am working for a great company that encourages growth and supports their people. I look forward to employing my skills and abilities with this company for many years to come.
The most important lesson that I have learned this year is the importance of friendship. I am blessed with such wonderful people in my life, some who are still a part of it, as well as the lessons taught by the friendships I have lost. I am eternally grateful for the ways that people have impacted my life and helped to support and inspire me to become the person that I am today.
The upcoming year is filled with opportunity. I am still in the process of discovering who I am, who I want to be, and how I am going to get there. This journey will have many highs and many lows, but nothing that I can’t overcome. I am excited to share this journey with you all.
I look forward to this being the first of many celebrations, holidays, activities, and events that we get to experience together.
Last week, I wrote about the process I went though in which I identified my values. If you didn’t read the post, you can read it here. I also suggest that you take this opportunity to identify your values using the techniques that I talk about in the post (but make sure you come back and finish reading this one too afterward).
Last weekend, my room mate decided to host a BBQ in which I had the opportunity to meet some of his friends. One of these people included Christopher, a certified Master Coach Practitioner at Change My Life Coaching. In the process of chatting, we got onto the topic of my values and goals. He challenged me to define what each word that I listed as a value actually meant to me.
First, this challenge caught me a bit off guard as I guess I never really thought about the definition of my values more in-depth than accepting them the way that society has defined each of these words, or that the words invoked an emotion in me that I identified with. After reflecting on it for a bit, I decided that this could be a neat challenge and an opportunity to really define these values for myself in order to clarify the way that I actually identified with them.
So I think that I am going to do this in two ways, first off I am going to use Merriam-Webster‘s definition of each word as clarification on what each item means in the context in which I listed it as a value. The second point I am going to tie into each word is why I value or identify or strive to include this item in my life.
- “The act of accomplishing” or bringing to completion
- I value accomplishment because one of my weaknesses is procrastination. Each time I accomplish a task, project or goal, I view it as a way in which I have overcome this weakness. I also like the positive feelings that come with seeing the final product of something in which I have contributed my efforts.
- “A declaration or avowal of one’s act or of a fact to give it legal validity”
- This is a little harder for me to express unless I do so in two parts. This first is the fact that I really enjoy the warm feelings that I get when an external source recognizes my talents, abilities, or accomplishments. However, on the flip side, I also enjoy acknowledging other people’s talents, abilities, or accomplishments and celebrating these with them.
- “Pleasurable Diversion”
- Experiencing amusement is less valuable for me than redefining experiences in a way that they can be amusing. It is very easy to point out the negative aspects of an experience, but if you can find and share the positive aspects of an experience, the same event can have two very different outcomes.
- The definition of comfort isn’t quite the way in which I interpreted this value. I think that I am going to define it as “Comfortable” which is “affording or enjoying contentment and security; free from stress or tension”
- External forces have certainly influenced my value of comfort, but I believe that it is most certainly the driving force for my career decisions and my goal of being debt-free.
- “a relation of personal intimacy”
- This ties very closely to my value of friendship. I really love sharing moments and experiences with people that I value, and the memories that these experiences provide to us as a special bond that only we can share.
- “to exercise restraining or directing influence over”
- I struggle most when I find myself in situations in which I have lost all control and I appear to have no ability to alter the current course of events in order to change the results of the situation.
- “capable of being depended on; reliable”
- Trust ties very tightly to dependability to me. I believe that if I can depend on someone, I also share a high level of trust and belief in that person.
- “the quality or state of being friendly”
- This is certainly one of my most important values. I try to put my friends above everything else because they are one of the most important aspects of my life. I value my friends as if they are a part of my family, and love meeting new people that also join this elite group of people in my universe.
- “fairness and straightforwardness of conduct”
- I believe we all struggle with honesty as it conflicts with our desire to avoid hurting people’s feelings. However, more often than not, I find that this is an unfounded fear and by being honest, it results in me forming a stronger bond with the person with whom I have just shared my honest emotions with.
- “the fact or condition of having information or of being learned”
- Learning from my past has made me into a better person, and I look forward to learning from my future to grow even further.
- “refusal to conform to an established or conventional creed, rule, or practice”
- While following the rules can be fun sometimes, I also think it is important to challenge why a rule is being imposed. I also refuse to accept something as “the way it is” without verifying that it is true. Finally, the only way to bring about change is to start with changing myself.
- “overall quality or character as seen or judged by people in general”
- I want to live my life in a manner in which I will be remembered as a good person that brought something positive to a situation or experience and helped other people to become better after I leave the room, situation, experience or overall when my current existence ends.
- “expression of sexual receptivity or interest”
- Society has done an amazing job of suppressing sexuality and teaching us that it is wrong to discuss, share, and enjoy. As a result, we have been left with the lack of education and resources to fully understand our feelings, urges, sensations, and experiences which results in a multitude of sexual hangups, embarrassments about turn-on’s and turn-off’s, and a general feeling of being inadequate.
- “anticipation of the needs and wants of others”
- This is truly harder said than done. Having a level of intimacy with another person in which you can anticipate a need or a want takes a lot of time and attention to connecting with them on a deeper level in which you can be in tune with their emotions before they happen.
- “adherence to the doctrines or practices of a tradition”
- I love small things that surround holidays, such as turkey for Thanksgiving; cards, decorations, and lights at Christmas; ect. Even though I believe that times, values, and people change, I love keeping the little traditions that make celebrations special
- “assured reliance on the character, ability, strength, or truth of someone or something”
- I strive to be a person in which my friends can turn to for support, council, or assistance. I also seek like minded people that are trustworthy to be close friends in which I can count on to be there for me when I need it.
- “ability to discern inner qualities and relationships”
- I value wisdom in contrast to struggling with regret. I believe that the universe puts each and everyone of us into a situation in which we have the opportunity to learn and grow as individuals, some good and some that hurt. However, the true test is translating each lesson into wisdom that can be applied into situations that you will encounter in the future.
I’ll leave you with this final thought. When I started writing this blog, I was extremely enthusiastic about the challenge of really ripping back the layers and expressing my true feelings about my values. I was extremely caught off guard by the amount of emotion this invoked and the amount of energy it took to continue to press on and be honest with myself about who I am. This exercise was mind-blowing in the way that it peeled back multiple layers of my personality in order to bring to completion. This truly was an extremely rewarding experience.
I challenge you to take this time to extract your definitions of your values for yourself.
A few days ago I shared with you my struggle about not being able to identify my goals. However, in the process of setting my new goals I have realized that part of my struggles have been caused by my actions conflicting with my values.
As much as I hate to use Wikipedia as a reference, I find their definition of “values” is my favourite:
- broad preferences concerning appropriate courses of action or outcomes.
- reflect a person’s sense of right and wrong or what “ought” to be
- tend to influence attitudes and behaviours
In the process of identifying my goals, I have also decided to share some of my values with you. I found a really neat website to help you create your list of personal values here at www.stevepavlina.com.
Some websites suggest that you choose 10 things from the list, but I don’t agree with this method because everyone is unique. Some of you will have more than 10 items on your list, some will have less.
I’ve decided to share some of my values with you below:
I think that it is an amazing experience to be able to identify the things that you value in your soul. It makes choices and decisions more clear since you won’t make a decision or set a goal that conflicts with your values. For me, for example, I wouldn’t make a choice to not celebrate Christmas because it would conflict with my value for traditionalism. That is a bad example because Christmas is one of my favourite holidays.
I hope you take a moment to create your own list and let me know about the experience in the comments below!
As many of you know, today is Mother’s Day in North America and many countries around the world. If you didn’t remember, you should take this moment to remember that it is Mother’s Day.
The idea for Mother’s Day was originated in Grafton, West Virginia, United States in 1908 by Anna Jarvis. After campaigning for several years, it became a recognized holiday by 1914 which is celebrated every year on the Second Sunday in May. Traditionally, it has been used as a day to celebrated mothers and the influence of mothers on our society. If you want to read more about the history of today, click here.
However, I would like to challenge this holiday to an update and a redefinition for 2013. As our society has grown and evolved, we should take this as an opportunity to celebrate all the women in our lives, not just our mothers. Women have played many different roles in our world that have changed the course of history in a way that only a Woman is capable of doing, whether they have children or not!
So to all you amazing women out there, thank you for being a wonderful person and an amazing woman! Happy Mothers Day!
This video is now several days old, but due to technical difficulties in getting my iPhone to communicate with my computer it has been delayed. I apologize for this and hope you enjoy my update!
Last week I discussed middle-seat etiquette, this week I want to take a look at the common space on board the airplane. Lets talk about the rules about the aisle.
- As you stand up to exit your seat, do not pull on the seat back which belongs to the person in front of you. You didn’t pay for that seat, so you do not have the right to touch it. There is nothing more terrifying than your seat back being pulled back while you’re sleeping on the plane.
- Now that you are standing in the aisle without touching the seat of the person in front of you, you have to walk to the washroom without touching the seat backs of anyone else’s seat. See above regarding the fact that you didn’t pay for the right to touch their seat. If you do need to brace yourself, the overhead bins make a great hand rail. If you cannot reach, then do your best to touch as few seats as possible and be certain to apologize for intruding on someone else’s space.
- How do you pass another person in the aisle? The most preferential way is to step into an empty seat. However, that isn’t always possible. In that scenario, the rule that flight attendants use is “cheek-to-cheek.” In other words, back-to-back. This is the least awkward way to pass in this narrow space.
- If you are waiting for someone else to finish up in the washroom, do not lean on the seat-back of the chairs. Having a seat near the bathroom is bad enough with the noise and smells that adding people standing in your seats is crossing the line.
- What happens if the person trapped by the window or middle seat needs to get up to use the washroom 100 times during the flight? You’re going to have to get up each and every time without complaining. This is the price of the aisle seat. Most importantly, you are certainly not going to force anyone to try and climb out over top of you to make their escape.
Do you have any other rules that you would add to travelling in the aisle seat? Let me know in the comments below.
Lately I have been struggling to find my purpose. I find myself riding an emotional roller coaster of high and low feelings as I contemplate the direction that my journey is going.
In the internal soul searching that I have been doing, I have identified that I am lacking current life goals. I do have some short term goals, but I have not yet established medium and long term goals. As a result, I feel like I am traveling without a road map to help me figure out how to find my way.
In my search I found this website by mind tools on how to set “SMART” goals.
A useful way of making goals more powerful is to use the SMART mnemonic. While there are plenty of variants (some of which we’ve included in parenthesis), SMART usually stands for:
- S – Specific (or Significant).
- M – Measurable (or Meaningful).
- A – Attainable (or Action-Oriented).
- R – Relevant (or Rewarding).
- T – Time-bound (or Trackable).
For example, instead of having “To sail around the world” as a goal, it’s more powerful to say “To have completed my trip around the world by December 31, 2015.” Obviously, this will only be attainable if a lot of preparation has been completed beforehand!
What better time that to start making goals than the present? Here are a few of my goals to start with:
- Publish at least 3 blogs per week
- Post at least 1 new vlog per week
- Read 1 book per month
- Establish 2 new medium term goals by the end of May
- Identify 1 new long term goal by the end of May
Have you recently set any new goals?
Hope everyone has had an amazing weekend! I have been busy working this past week and finally had time to put together a new vlog for you. Hope you enjoy!
I am the type of person that invites people into my life trusting that they are a good spirit and that they will bring positive energy and amazing memories into my world. I wear my heart on my sleeve and always try to go above and beyond for my friends to provide them with good vibes in return.
Some people have a much greater impact on my existence than others, but everyone that comes into my life seems to leave some sort of an impact.
However, the universe seems to have a cruel way of removing people from my life at different times. In certain cases this isn’t a bad thing, but in some cases it hurts a lot as the pieces in my heart that these people occupied are ripped out and shattered, leaving me to clean up the mess feeling empty.
I’m sure that the universe is trying to teach me a lesson, and in time I will figure out how to fill the void left by these losses. In the mean time, I shall cherish the memories and the lessons that my former friends have taught me and challenge myself to use these empty spaces to construct myself into a better person.
Have you had someone come and go in you life that changed you as a person, changed your view of the world, or challenged you to grow?